Human beings have traveled huge distance of evolution from being Primates to Homo sapiens.Breakthrough in this journey apart from bipedal-ism, discovery of tools and fire was also beginning of oral communication.Earlier, the mode of communication was some specific sounds, expressions and gestures that led to development of oral communication in form of spoken words and later written communication in the form of pictures and cave drawings (letters and alphabets came much later).
Now the world we are entering is determined to reverse everything that has evolved and is learnt in thousands of years.The latest trend that is taking shape these days is the broken thread of communication between parents and kid or in modern terminology Wi-fi communication or 4G communication between parents and kids.
Blame it on ultra fast paced life of parents or over indulgence of kids and parents in smart phones, i-pads and many other gadgets that are being launched everyday,it is not uncommon to see the parents scrolling down their whats app backlog of past half an hour while their kid is trying to get across something important or vice versa.Or even kids sitting in their rooms and communicating with parents via whats app or some other messenger.
We may want to debate that how does being in rhythm with the technological developments effect parent-kid relationship, here i would like to elaborate that If we follow the development of kids communication skills from the time they are born, the pattern is somewhat similar to the development of humans from early men.They begin by expressing themselves with the crying -cry for being sleepy, for hunger, for need of love, then follows sound developments (Goo-Goo,Gaa,Gaa), then the ability to express via drawing pictures ,then the use of single words(water, food) followed by sentences. In each of these developmental phases, parents have an important role to play, be it listening and comforting their baby when they cry or deciphering the pictures they draw to understand if something is troubling them.
Communication is an important thing that kids start learning from their surroundings and more importantly their parents.Their initial vocabulary, gestures, reactions are based on what they learn from their parents, their ability to express themselves, their outward nature, their reactions, inflections, tones are borrowed from their parents.They gain confidence from their small chit chat with parents and they also gain confidantes when they share their little secrets, fears, happiness and complaints with their parents.
It was the talk of yesteryear’s when the proud papa would make heaven and earth one to ensure that the first word that his 6 months old says is “Da-da” or Mamma would be busy teaching baby speak “Ma”.But now with most of the time kids spending in day cares,the parents hardly have time to teach their kids how to speak or draw or even listen to their school or day care stories.
The parents who have restrictive communication with the kids, may lead to a kid who has underdeveloped and ineffective communication skills and less confident in expressing themselves in front of others.As responsible parents, it is our duty that we have an open thread of communication with our kids to ensure that we raise up confident and responsible adults that will ensure that the same legacy is passed on to their kids and our prized possession of speech that we have gained after years of evolution is not lost forever.